Today let's chat about something we all go through but don't often talk about—a friendship that comes to an end. It's a touchy subject. But here's the thing, sometimes friendships just... end. And guess what? It's usually nobody's fault. Sometimes, it's about where you are in your life or where your friend is in theirs. It can be a bit like seasons changing.
Reflect on Your Feelings
When a friendship starts to fade, it's totally normal to feel all sorts of emotions. You might feel sad because you miss what you had. You might feel confused about why things changed. Or, you might even feel relieved if things weren't going so great. All these feelings are okay! They're a part of figuring out what comes next for you.
"Some people come into your life for a reason, some a season, and some a lifetime."
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Communicate, If You Can (or Want)
If you're feeling up to it, why not have a chat with your friend? I'm not talking about a big, dramatic confrontation. Just a simple, honest talk where you share your feelings. Remember, it's not about blaming anyone. It's about understanding each other better. Sometimes, this can even help clear the air! Maybe they’ve just been in a weird headspace for a while and had nothing to do with you!
Take It Slow
There's no rush to decide the fate of your friendship. Friendships can naturally change over time as you both grow into different interests or even new life stages. Letting things evolve naturally can be less stressful than trying to force a decision. I have friendships where I won’t talk to the person for months or even years and when we see each other its like we haven’t skipped a beat. Every relationship is different.
Focus on What's Next
Here’s the exciting part—there are so many people out there! People who share your interests, your values, and your vibe right now. It’s like when you turn the page in a good book and find a whole new chapter waiting for you. New friendships are out there, just waiting to start. Isn't that something to look forward to?
Be Kind to Yourself and Them
Change can be tough, not just for you but for your friend too. Be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up. And remember, your friend is probably dealing with their own mix of emotions. Being kind can make this transition smoother for both of you.
It’s a lot to think about when a friendship changes. But hey, life is all about changes and how we grow through them.